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The following podcast is provided by pinnacles senior placements LLC and answers for elders radio. And Welcome back to everyone to answers for elders radio, as we are so grateful today to talk to Daphne Davis from Pinnacle Senior Placements and definitely we’ve been talking about right now about all of the things that we have to be grateful for and we really haven’t gotten into what pinnacle does. And we probably have some new listeners here, so explain to our listeners right now what is it that Daphne does for our seniors right now and what is pinnacle senior placements and what do you guys do? But what we do for the last six years Pinnacle Open your placements. It’s been around for six years and I have been helping families for twenty years. What we do is help people find the appropriate housing in care when staying in your home is not the best option any longer. We do home with finding some inhome care if there needs to be some transitioning, but primarily I help families walk through the whole maze of what is assisted living? What is memory care? What is an adult family home? How do I pay for this? What’s it going to cost me? What kind of things right bring with me? How do I move? We go through all the questions of anything to deal with moving, you know, thinking about even down sizing. Pinnacle senior placements is a resource. I think of myself as an information post and we are here to answer any of their questions. Anything. It could be about be a benefits it could be about does my insurance cover this in an adult family home, my health insurance? It can be anything. How do I transport myself to get to the doctor’s officers? I don’t have family goes by anything at all. Pinnacle senior placements is here to help you figure those those questions, getting answers to those questions. The most important thing for me in my job and the people in our team that that are working with families is that we get to bring down people stress. Usually sometimes it can be very overwhelming because usually, not always, but usually there’s some kind of change in health or change in cognition abilities, change in what you’re physically able to do sometimes, and so that can cause a lot of emotions to come up, and so my greatest joy is helping people see the light at the end of the tunnel and recognize the change as the next chapter of life. This is not the end of life, but just the next and it’s going to be different and it’s going to feel different, but you’ve had many different chapters in your life and so I help people embrace that next chapter well, and you know that that’s so important. And even more important, importantly, I think that we should bring out is your services are free. So, yes, the Nice thing about working with you is that you know, starting off this journey again, especially if you’re concerned about a loved one, peep families don’t even know when it’s the right time or how to bring up the topic. Are you know even how to, you know, begin the search? I’ll never forget when it was time for me to look for a place for my mother, when she was in Rehab and they informed me, dropped in on me, that they’re releasing her to assisted living, not to go back home, and so I had to think, okay, it was a whole shift right and you know, yeah, you feel like you’re a deer in the headlights. You’re drinking from a fire hose and you’re trying to figure out all of the ways and you know and you don’t know what questions to ask, you don’t know what you don’t know. So having somebody like you to help families go through this process, I think, is so valuable and certainly I wish I would have had a Daphnee in two thousand and five when I was going through with my mom. It’s happy to hear that because I think more than ever it’s it’s really important to be able to know what it really needs, to look at different unities of Karen and Housing and not to just get the plus that really have someone listen to your story and to find out what your highest values are and help us stepper. Where can those highest values be upheld? Where can your health care do you be met? Can gain and maybe we can plan even down the future so that you don’t have to move multiple times. It’s really important me that somebody that you can trust. That is so huge because with my mom I had to move her four times, four times because I did not make the right decisions up front. I you know, the first time I was trying to savor money, which was ridiculous because it ended up costing more money. Second of all, you know, we moved her into an apartment. You know, and it just kept changing and then she went on Medicaid, so we had to downsize the apartment to a studio. So it was when it in the same building, but then she had to move to a Rehab Center after that, a nurse, you know skilled nursing facility. So understanding that that process happened, you know, I think about the stress that was on her was overwhelming and had I know up front, I would have made very different choices it. Had I had somebody like you, I wouldn’t have had her go through the different steps like I would have, and that would have been, you know, valuable for sure. So yeah, that’s the story that I hear a lot and I’m going to tell a really quick story that’s happening right now. It’s for an eighty nine year old gentleman and his wife is a few years younger than than he is, and a year ago he had a pretty significant stroke and the wife did not know what her options were in terms of care for him physically and she chose to have him go to a Rehab Center and he had been living there for about a year and in the current times, he did contract covid nineteen and hospitalized, went through that. He did regain his strength and he battled that while he was then sent to another hospital to have his fourteen days in terms of wasn’t coming back. So’s that another hospital doing that? And now they had to make a decision about where, where’s my husband going to live now, because he can’t stay at the hospital? And who lack of information and fear. Unfortunately, this family spent a lot of money in the Rehab facility the year he was there because it was private pay, and I’m not taking anyonelf. We have communities, but they spent up to fourteen thousand dollars per month for his so now he doesn’t need the rehab level of care, but he has no funds and so we’re trying to figure out the best way that he can have quality life, quality housing in care with the funds that he has, because she needs to keep track of funds for herself as well. So why helping this family be able to figure out how do we make this next chapter work? But if she had had someone guiding her a year ago, that money could have been expent over two years instead of one year and right it would have looked completely different. So to your point, really is helpful to have someone walk you through what the reality is a community and the reality of how do we maximize the buying power of someone’s personal estate? It’s a really important things right and getting back to what we’re grateful for, I’m grateful for you because I know so many times I have called you and said, Daphne, I need help. I have a family that you know that that we’re you know that I don’t know how to help them and you’ve been amazing to step up and help and so I am so grateful to you or for you to to do what you can. And you know I’m going on the whole thing about gratitude. I really wanted to touch on you talked in the last hour of you know, we talked about giving up expectations, but you also really talked about setting intention and, I think having an attention every day to find out what you’re grateful for and to do things that give you joy. There’s a lot of things that we can think about that we may not have thought about before and I wanted to touch we have about like five minutes left in this segment, a little less, and I would love to talk to you a little bit about, you know, what are your thoughts on how did do that? So the most important thing is just kind of take an inventory of your own personality. Don’t think things that are going to make you uncomfortable and this will help you with the gratitude of Oh, I’m really thankful that I’m I have a kind heart. I’m moving grateful. Then I’m I’m a little more quiet because I can let someone else tell their story to me. I don’t have to tell my story all the time. I mean there’s joy everyone, and so out of this is the first taken inventory of who you are and what things do wan give you joy or who are? What’s your natural personality qualities? I’m going to tell a lot story about my mom here and I talked about her frequently, but my mom thinks of other people all the time and throughout the years she’ll do birthday and Christmas shopping all the time, while all the humor side is she forgets where she puts them. So she can have, you know, things bought in one drawer and in a closet and under the bed. She just forgets what she has them. So now, and we are downsizing for her and going through things, were finding all these gifts that she has bought for people over the years. Last week I encouraged her. I said, mom, right now we can’t see each other, but how much fun would it be for this, you know grandchild to get this surprise? You intended to give it to him, you know, two years ago and this was going on, but the mail just pack it up and put it in the envelope and drop right idea. Yes, you, I am sure that all of us have things in the house. We don’t have to go shopping. Things in the House that you intended for someone. I have another friend which I I’m so inspired by. She’s decided to clean one kitchen cupboard cabinet a day, just one. That’s a big undertaking with just that one a day, that one a day. But think about, you know, the sense of accomplishment that you feel by getting things done around the house. Or, you know, my husband said, you know, I’ve been thinking about moving this big hydrenda that we have to the other side of that shed because it’s taking over the garden and and so you know, we’re going to do that this weekend. We never, probably never would have done that before. So you know, those are little things just to do things around the house. To have that feeling of accomplishment, I think is wonderful. Yes, sure, I know that. I’m talking to a generation that’s still remembers what we call now nail mail. So that’s yeah, what the envelope into the mailbox. It gets to somebody in the mailbox. So the snail mail, I mean the art. Think about how many cards you have in your house. I I am positive every single household has thank you cards, sympathy cards, happy Burnley, thinking of you. Yeah, an awesome thing just to send those out now, and it doesn’t matter, does not matter if your handwriting is squiggly. Don’t let me stop you. It’s your home. Will be seen. Just so do it. If you don’t have everyone house, that’s okay. We can figure out how to get a stamp put put on the envelope on the outside of your door. If you’re living in an assistive living and ask somebody, here’s some money, could you please get stamps on them and drop them at the post office, I’m positive somebody will do that for you. I love it. I love it so everyone. Daphne will be right back right after this. The preceding podcast was provided by pinnacles senior placements, LLC and answers for elder radio. To contact pinnacles senior placements, go to Pinnacle Senior Placementscom
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