Daphne Davis’s Wellness Formula: The Spirit

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The following podcast is provided by pinnacles senior placements LLC and answers for elders radio. And Welcome back everyone, to answers for elder’s radio and we are here with our Wonderful Daphne Davis from pinnacle senior placements. Daphne is the amazing Guru for any questions that you might have in the journey of your senior loved one. And by the way, we haven’t gone into this, but Daphne’s services are free. She does not charge you for anything. She gets paid like a realtor, so you don’t even have to worry about that piece. So there’s no reason not to reach out and call Daphne. And we are here talking about Daphne’s formula for health and wellness and we’ve talked about body and in our first segments we talked about the mind and how we make really good, solid, constructive choices for our lives. And now, Daphne, we’re moving into the spirits side, which is so important and certainly one that’s worth talking about. So thank you and welcome back. Thank you so much. Yeah, that’s spirit side is really important and and I look at that as kind of a broad thing of kind of your your happiness level. On some levels, it’s also a spirituality piece, where you find your grounding and your core and what what keeps you centered right, and each person that’s going to be very different. But when I’m talking about the spirit today, I’m talking about the things that give you a sense of satisfaction, the things that can give you joy, the things that give you contentment piece, no angst, true, the lack of regret. You know that we don’t want to be in a position that we end up thinking in our last days of our life about all of our regrets, and so that kind of this is not my term, but one that I kind of go back to is the bucket list. Yes, you know we’ve had some good movies out there that have kind of introduced a bucket list. Yeah, jackel looked. Nicholson did a great job with that. But it’s to have fun with it, and so I want to start there in terms of dreaming a little bit, for you to think about what are the things that I have wanted to do in my life, and let’s just paint a picture here. Let’s say you’re, you know, seventy five to ninety five years old and you look back on your life and you think about all the things that you have done and I hope that you smile on that. You know, find the things that make you smile and the things that bring you joy. And as you’re walking through that journey in your mind of all the things you did as a child, the the care freeness that you might have had as a child, the things that you did when you were exploring in your s are going to college or traveling or, you know, the wonderment of being a mother or five other think about those things and and, as you’re going through that journey, take a little bit of time to think, what did I also want to do at that time? What are the things I didn’t do? Yeah, and and force yourself to think about them, not in a morose, sad way, but in a way like I wonder if I can still get that checked off my bucket list. I love and and to be able to really conjure up those old things. I know for me this is a simple one. I have on my bucket list still to take a watercolor painting class. I’ve mentioned this before. That’s still on my bucket list and I really do want to know if I’ve got any artistic ability in me, if I could have a little bit of direction like that’s I love that, and so that’s something that I want to do, to be able to explore. Think about your own life. I mean maybe it’s something that, you know what, I wanted to always do, some wood carving or something, or I wanted to do some God, this is an old, old hobby, but that would burning that we used to do. Yeah, you know right. Yeah, pictures or words. You know, probably it was on your list when you were, you know, seventeen years old, sure, and it got skipped. Put it back on the list. Yeah, have it be there so that you can go. HMM, I wonder if there’s some place that I could take a class. I wonder if there’s somebody that knows how to do this in my circle of influence. I wonder if I mentioned this at Church or at the Civic Organization I’m at and somebody else has the same bucket list. How much fun would that be to explore, like, how do I even do this? Now in today’s age, there are all kinds of little crafty places, art places, diy, do it yourself places, Youtube video. Oh my gosh, it’s the resources are there. Yeah, just have the dream to start first. Yes, I mean it could be something as big as you want it. I my bucket list includes going in a hot air balloon. I am afraid of heights. I have seen movies aeronautics or something, or I can’t remember what was, but you’re actually in the balloon with people and I’m like, Oh, maybe I can’t do that because I’m so afraid of heights, but it’s still on my bucket list. Don’t take it off of the list. There might be a day that someone else inspires you. This says not. Let us go conquer our fear together. Exactly. And and you know, when I work for Tony Robbins, one of the things that mantras that we had was if you can’t, then you must, you must, then you can, and these are the things when you you face a fear. I remember when I did my first firewalk. It was like, Holy Molly, I can’t walk on hot coals and I walked through. You know this this through, but you know what that experience did for me. It’s a metaphor for you know, I used to think I couldn’t do a lot of things and but I proved myself wrong. It’s all of a sudden it’s like your might. You tweak your mind to think. You know, I didn’t think I could walk on hot coals and I did it. Yeah, so now anything’s possible. I like that in terms of thinking about what I can do. Dare to dream a little bit again. Yeah, you might have our thright, as you might have, you know, slower energy moving things. You might you might have an extra pound or two that makes things move a little harder. Are you might be full of Venomin vigor and your mind is just saying, Oh, I can’t, I’m afraid, I’m afride. Whatever it is that is a an apparent reason for you to not dream right, push through it. This is that spirit, the spirit of you let your grandkids, let your kids see a side of you that’s playful, that you never let anybody see. I mean, that would be something on my bucket list. I mean I don’t have a great sense of humor, per my husband, and if I know all of a sudden had a great sense of humor, my kids would probably go who is that woman? Well, and you don’t. Could be simple choices. I’m going to just bring up something that’s just totally crazy, but it’s something I think is appropriate for this. My mother gifted me her China, Uh Huh, and it’s very special. We bought it in Sweden but my mother never used it. It was like sad in the China cabinet right and when I got it she was still alive and still in assist to living. Every single time she came to my house I served her on her China, even if we sat on a patio and we’re having macarni and cheese and hot dogs and you know, it was on the Swedish China, it was on the, you know, the Royal Copenhagen China, and my mother was going like this is crazy, but she loved it. She loved that I was enjoying it and it was it was something I did honor her and it was crazy because her enjoyment was much more important for me. And those are little crazy things. They are, but that’s part of it, isn’t it? It doesn’t the practicality goes aside. I mean, yeah, think about sometimes, and this is a kind of Downer thought, but but as we age sometimes our world get smaller. Very allow it to get bigger. That is an excellent example of how it can bigger, get bigger and kind of frivolous. Yes, like, oh, we got the good China out. You know, something like something fun it is. It might be ballroom dancing, it might be, you know, going for a motorcycle rival. Maybe you can’t get on the motorcycle, but maybe you can get on a four wheeler. You know, kind of same idea. Articulate what your dreams are. I encourage all of you get out a little dream book, the Bucket List and just start writing about President George Hw Bush, yes, did a tandem pair of you jump because you never done it, and he was ninety years old. Yep, at ninety. Yeah, that is amazing. We can do anything. They other good thing about having more birthdays and being in a next decade of life is we have different responsibilities and sometimes the responsibilities can just be about ourselves and sometimes our spirit says, oh, that’s selfish, that’s frivolous, that’s not that’s not the right thing to do. Blogny, HMM. Who else is going to think about you more than you in terms of what your bucket list is, the spirit of who you are, the spirit that hasn’t been able to be seen the four because you had to be responsible. Well, in what I again, it’s on our newsletter this month. This is just so a parallel. But it’s living authentically. Yes, it’s it’s saying, you know what, I don’t have to put this front of anymore. I don’t have to. And I told the story about how I let my hair grow gray, right, because this was appropriate for February health and wellness, and it’s like, you know, the what got me through the journey of allowing myself to go gray, which was hard, it was really hard, but I chose to be authentic. I made that conscious choice in my you know, went on my sixty the birthday. What am I going to do in my life from here forward? And that was part of it. And it was like, I don’t need to be a slave to hair dry hair die any more. That was my choice. Right. It’s not everybody’s different. But the thing that’s really unique about that, and I think really thing, is to think about to have those conversations with yourself, to say what is it that? It isn’t what norm or societal norms is telling me to be. What’s about? Who Am I and how can I express that piece in the later parts of my life. Right. What is that Inner Child? Yeah, what, who is that person that hasn’t been able to be seen? Now, I am not suggesting breaking of any laws. I’m not suggesting not being safe. No, if not suggesting being reckless. No, not. But but really, as I started this whole segment, talking about going back and walking through your life, celebrating that life and then thinking and really dress as yourself. Yeah, yourself and and certainly I played you the video this last last weekend, we had a very special experience with a community up and Muckletio who had contacted me and their executive director said we have a resident who she used to be a ballroom dancer. Her husband passed away. They used to enjoy that together as a couple for fifty years or whatever long it was, and he passed away and then she had a stroke and she lost a lot of the movement and her left side, her left eye, you know, is blind, blinded, and so you know. But she had on her bucket list to dance again. I also learned through the conversation that she’s a huge seahawks fan, and so we created this experience. The community actually came forward and said we want to do this for you. Would you help us with getting a seahawks legend? And if you guys, go to answers for elders and read the story, it’s all about bucket list, you will be able to see the video of this lovely lady who namers Bernie and dancing with Alonso mins. It was a very special, special afternoon on Saturday. What a treat. Yes, but those are the kind of things that should be happening. They should be. Yeah, and I hate to use that word should, but they should be. This should be because those are the things that are in our spirit, that that give us joy, contentment, a sense of peace and right and the place of having no regrets. Right. So, everyone, Daphne will be right back right after this. The preceding podcast was provided by pinnacles senior placements LLC and answers for elders radio. To contact pinnacles senior placements, go to Pinnacle Senior Placementscom.