National Placement and Referral Alliance, and Embracing Summer with Daphne Davis

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The following podcast is provided by pinnacles senior placements LLC and answers for elders radio. And Welcome back everyone to answers for elders radio. If we are talking about embracing summer time, and as we’re in the end of June here in the Pacific northwest, we are here with one of our very favorite people, Daphne Davis from Pinnacle senior placements, and Daphne’s here talking about, you know, how do you embrace summer? How do you come back out of this, you know, out of the shadows and say, you know, we can, we can begin to live again. And part of that maybe that you have noticed there’s some changes with your leave one. You maybe they haven’t been eating right, maybe because they’ve been sitting home there in a situation where you’re concerned. They might be a fault, you know, might have fallen, or there’s things in their house that they can’t navigate like they used to, or all different types of things. As a family member, you’re concerned. Well, Daphne is here to share with all of us across the country that there is now a new organization and and that can help people all across the country and deathite. Welcome back and I would love to have you talk a little bit about that terrific. Well, it’s called national placement and referral alliance and P as a hall are a okay, and website is n as a NANCYP are alliance Dot Org, and I want to tell you about that because it is an organization of people specifically in the placement in referral industry that is elevating our industry, having some accountability, having best practices and ethics that are universal nationwide. It’s also as an organization that is helping with lobbying for good legislations to protecting our families and our elders. I can’t say I’m that’s good about where this is going. It’s been a ground I think about four years now and in the state of Wak we just started a chapter and myself into other professionals are kind of spearheading that and starting to the chapter here in Washington. So we’re really looking forward. Yeah, we’re really looking forward to having some good legislation, not to be limiting but to be protective and if one thing I know is that vulnerable population still need to be protected. So just so for MPRE A. It’s a nationwide organization. So thanks for letting me talk about that. But along those lines, I just got a phone call from someone a couple of days ago that’s in Massachusetts and I don’t know the Massachusetts, but I was able to happen to my colleagues nation why, to that organization, to be able to have a family be hew and I knew that it was going to be with quality people. So that’s the biggest benefit to our listeners in checking out and here alliance Dot Org. So I hope that you’ll be able to look there. I’m I am I am so thrilled that there’s this type of an association that has happened and that you are so much involved in it, because I think in my experience and many times people will call like an online situation and they’ll say, oh well, I’m going to sign it because I need help, you know, finding a senior living community. They don’t take the time with the family. They position people sometimes as quote unquote advisors or senior advisors, are basically sales people. They don’t have specific training in the industry to the degree they don’t, they don’t sign a code of ethics or anything like that their job is to basically pump people into communities without really thinking about it. And you know, one of the things, that’s why I always shy away from those types of scenarios, because I think one of the things that really is so important in the work that you do is that you really take time with the family and talking to them about their various, you know, challenges, opportunities, values and all the different things. So when when it’s time to find that right community of care for them, you you kind of narrow it down to what would be the right fit and therefore there’s not this move out or doesn’t fit or anything like that. That’s huge in the quality of life for a last one. It is. It really is. Another phone call I had just this morning was beere, sixty six year old woman who’s going through some some health changes, and her sister, who happens to be, you know, few years older than her and she’s that are eight, didn’t know which direction to turn and she has her ideas about what would work for her sisters. The phone conversation she, you know, could say to me wild after I hadn’t thought about those options. I didn’t even know those options were available. So really important, ie along in the lines of what you’re saying, to manage it is to have somebody walk alongside you in this journey. That will take time, to figure out your unique story and be would give you firsthand information about communities of care. Really really an important piece, because I believe one of the highest value should be that people don’t have to move a lot. You know that that’s really important to continuity in someone’s life as they embrace the next chapters of that their life. Make me make it rightful as possible and not stressful. Right back the kind of thing that we’ve been talking about is how do we reduce the trust? How do we again, and I don’t know about you, know all of our listenership and where your education is and how to even have mom or dad get into your car to have some joy in your life? But I’d like to talk about some specifics today. With that be okay with you? So they love pretty great. So one thing. Let’s just start with picking up mom or dad from their community that they live in, their home that they live in, wherever they’re at. And again, just like in the first thing that we talked about, is prepare things to take longer prepare yourself for thinkings taking longer. Don’t expect to walk into the home or the apartments and say, okay, we’re ready to go and that they’re all ready to go. Take a minute to have a chat with them, figure out where their person is at the time. They stressed about this? Are they excited about going out? Have No simple things? Have they gone to the bathroom before you leave? Do they feel well put together? Does Dad, you know, have his hair combed the way he likes this that he wants to keep warm? It might be warm to you, but maybe not to your mom or dad. Sure, we have out of yourself and think about your loved one, think about things that might be a bit different in their life and does low down. M and I think what you’re saying is so true, because when we go pick up mom or dad, it’s like somebody that waiting in the car. So you come in the door and you say, okay, let’s go, and it’s just a lot in a minute and it’s so as our mind start to slow down a little bit, realize that, you know, as we get older, it’s make taking the time to just connect, to say it’s safe. It’s a safe way to go, it might take a little bit of time to get a jacket together, or mom might want to have an extra sweater or, you know, there might be some anxiety about what do I bring or, you know, if there’s some continents issue, make sure you know you have those types of supplies with you. Those are things that are, you know, can be certainly very, very important in in you know, and in the in the road trip, wherever you’re going. Yes, even if it’s just, you know, a drive for the day afternoon, steaking away the anxiety of the things that sons worrying about, you know, social appropriateness, am I going to have an accident? Did I remember my pills? I have to have some food to take my pills. All of those things just ramp up the stress Babble, which may cause you, as a son or daughter, your friend, to get a no, I really don’t want to do that. It’s not that they don’t want to do it, it’s that they’re worried about all of these other logistical things. So the more logistics that you take care of and to talk about out loud, it’s doesn’t have to see the elephant in the room. Just talk about, Hey, I’ve this but taking care of that. I got some snacks. You like nuts, you like raisins, do you? You know? Watch some crackers and peanut butter. You don’t think about protein. Both things will make someone that hasn’t been out in the bath for the last five hundred and sixteen months feel a lot more secure. Yeah, you’re in the apartner picking them up, and you know, are you getting ready to go? And now you’re walking down the hallway. That says and an assistant living. You’re going down the elevator. They’re chatting with their friends as they’re going and you’re on a time frame and you say, Mama, got to go, let’s go. No, no times for a time. Yep, it’s okay for Hazel and Susan to be talking to each other because they haven’t seen each other in the hallway, or they’re letting someone know that I’m not going to be here for lunch. Those are all important things that happens. Slow down. Yeah, those things are what was going to bring comfortability to your event that day, to the time that you’re spending together. HMM, as you’re getting out the door, you know you’re at the front desk. I’m just kind of playing out of scenario. Here you’re at the front desk and now they’re excited. My Dad is here. They need to introduce you. Would proud of you. They’ve got stories to tell. Let the stories be told. Now you get out the door. Yeah, and and the thing too, is is that just thinking it’s going to take. You know, you might be carrying a tote bag or something like that, even for an afternoon, and those things are important and it gives mom, you know, or dad the security that everything’s there. I will add one more thing. Make sure that you, if you’re leaving for a period of time and if they’re on medicated medication management and they’re in a community, that you touch base to make sure that’s the time that you’re gone, that you have proper medications to help them. I know that’s one of the things that I learned when I was taking care of my mother, and those things you just make do a little check at the nurse station just to make sure, and I know that that’s something that oftentimes we forget our routine. It’s somebody else very good point, because it is very important to well things when we for and you’re going to get in the car and maybe you as a family member have had some training with the PP as of physical therapists some how to get in the car. Name hasn’t or maybe over the last fifteen months things have been a little bit different and just raising a way to caen interest to get into the car all of a sudden is a trial. I mean, let’s talk about that in our next segment because I think that would be a really important subject to talk about in great length and so for everyone. Before we go to our next segment, Daphne, how do we reach to fun way to reach me is that Pinnacle Senior Placementscom and you can get in touch with all of podcast that we’ve had this platzoraw of information. So that’s a fun way, Pinnacle Senior Placementscom and the old phone way is eighty five, seven, three, four, one fifteen hundred and doubt’s very good about getting back to all of you, and so we are very excited to explore this topic. It’s time to embrace summer and to get out into the world again and everyone gap they will be right back right after this. The preceding podcast was provided by pinnacles senior placements LLC and answers for elders radio. To contact pinnacles senior placements, go to Pinnacle Senior Placementscom