Daphne Davis at Pinnacle Senior Placements talks about what you’re grateful for over the holidays. And if you have senior loved ones, how you can help them feel gratitude as well. Daphne talks about how she helps makes things easier for families, even more now than before.
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The following podcast is provided by pinnacles senior placements LLC and answers for elders radio, and welcome back to everyone to answers for elder’s radio and we are here with Daphne Davis from Chinnicle senior placements and the same this weekend, very appropriately, is what are you grateful for? As youse listeners, if you’re thinking about it right now, think about the things that you’re grateful for and, especially if you have a senior loved one or know the senior in your world, how can you do some things for them that make their life easier that they can feel gratitude as well? And so, dafty, one of the things, of course, I keep saying, and we said in the last segment, is how grateful we are for you and all of the things that you do for northwest families, and I am just really excited to talk about this next segment of how easy you make things for families, which is is so important right now in times of strife and struggle, you are still very viably helping, probably in new ways that you know, more ways, expanded ways than you have before. Is that correct? That you’re absolutely true? Pinnacle thing to placements. We are now. Our company is just embarking into our seventh year of existence. I’ve been doing this job for twenty one years and helping families find the right care and housing for their loved ones and walking him through that journey and helping families discover, you know, what their highest values are, what are their physical needs, emotional needs, spiritual needs, and kind of narrowing the Playfield, I guess, of your options. That more uniquely to your story, and so I have to say I am personally very grateful that we have had so many people in our communities that have chosen to trust us and to let us go through this journey of the next chapter of life or someone, because that’s really what it is, the next chapter of life for elders. are seeing who may not be able to live in their homes alone anymore on a safe basis or their physical that has changed, but it’s just the next chapter of life, and so I just want to have a heart of gratitude that I think all of our listeners who have called there are so many people that I’m helping right now. I want to just kind of highlight a story that happened recently and this is for a ninety two year old gentleman and he’s born and raised in Seattle and very successful man profession showly and successful with his family. Is Marriage. He’s now widowed and had a very vile life. I mean I think he traveled on all seven continents with his wife and his younger years and very intelligence. Life was full and busy and now for the last eleven years he’s been living in his own home alone and like smaller and smaller and in the last five years he has stopped driving. There’s been a series of caregivers who have come into his home and built relationship with him and helped him, you know, be able to stay in his home as long as possible and then to all wonderful things. But now he’s at the place where he recognizes he needs more care and that is time to move out of his home. And his children, I’m so, very thankful, reached out to us and are we’re able to help them and go through this whole process and I want to just show a little bit of how that happens. It’s you know, I got the phone call from the daughter and she’s already looked at some places and been, you know, having conversations for she said, last two years she knew this day was coming and so she had some education. And I said, you know, this is the first step we need to do is get you and me and Trush, who works in the area they wanted to live, or a colleague of mine on a zoom call. And so we actually met on a zoom and I taught everybody how to do that and went famously well. So there were five of us and we got to just have conversations about their dad and distill. Oh, I forgot about dad. I forgot that he’d like to do that. I thought I thought about that the other day and I thought I wanted to dad could do XYZ hobby again. And so through that conversation we were able to get a snapshot of who our new client was and what things might be important to him. Now, remember he hasn’t done a lot of these things in years. It’s for again, very successful man, very intelligent, independent, kind of a man’s man, very physical, skiing, hiking, outdoors, and now you know, picture this. This man’s life is in his house alone and now we’re going to have the joy of expanding his next chapter of life. Yes, tell you the children were so excited, like Dafne, this is possible, and I said absolutely, but love us who are with me and telling me who your dad is, the more that we can hone in and find just the right community for Your Dad. And then, you know what you’re joy and what you’re doing is these are questions that families would never ask themselves. You know they’re I don’t often times there’s so much emotion around, Oh, we have to make this change. All this is going to be hard. I don’t know how we’re going to deal with this, all this uncertainty and not having the right resources that you don’t even think about asking the questions of how could you know? What are things that dad loves to do? What are ways in which you know the things that he could pick up that would be exciting for him? And those are the things I think that you bring to the table. Is that quality of life piece that we oftentimes as families forget about right? Yeah, well, it’s most because we don’t know if there’s an option of having it. The other right piece that comes in during this time is dealing with covid and you know right now that is just like put the brakes on everybody. No, I don’t understand how they see work. Can I see my mom or dad? Can I do this? Are they safe? So I in that hour and a half conversation that we had on zoom, we were able to talk very directly about what does visitation mean and what things are important to you as a family. So, because pinnacle is always at the cutting edge of knowing what’s going on in the state of Washington, need change literally weekly. Interned, our elments are cared for, and so we’re paying attention to that and keeping educated, and so we’re able to give you hard information about how a visit actually can happen or not and what are the right expectations. Rather than having the ambiguity of the unknown, let’s talk about what really will take place. See other piece that comes out of this, and this is something I’m very grateful for. If families being open to hearing new information, it is hard to step out of our comfort zone, and so if you have that quality in your family, naturally celebrated. Be Grateful for it. If it’s something that you need to work only have courage to reach out and call you know these to walk through the areas of the unknown can show light and can bring on hope, and that’s what I’ve been evering in the last few months of because we’re really we’re tired of COVID WE’RE TIRED OF MASS or tired of not seeing our mom and dad when there, you know, at a distant living or adult family home or the Nursing Care Facility it. We’re tired, but we can are things and so we can stay. Let’s call pinnacle of senior placements, let’s called Bas me talk to somebody on our team of seven. Let’s figure out if there’s something that could be a little adjusted in the community that they’re at. Or maybe dose these processes have have moved forward and we need to do a different kind of care, or maybe maybe we just need something simple as getting a cup of caregivers coming into the home. Well, I think a lot of what you’re I think a lot of what you’re talking about, which is I think is really important, is that, again it goes back to we don’t know what’s possible and we don’t know. I think when we’re emotional about things, we may not understand it from a broader perspective that there may be options that we may not have thought of and certainly. The other flip side of it is is there’s a lot of people because we feel stuck and yet we know mom or dad can’t be living alone anymore. So what we’re doing is, you know, putting our own lives on hold and, you know, trying to take care of a loved one that really needs higher degree of care, but they’re still in their home. There are ways in which everybody can win in this process and certainly having a resource like you that can help them lay out, you know, there are many options here. It’s not just a crystal clear, you know, cookie cutter thing that happens, and I think that’s one of the things that with our families out there. I think sometimes the consumer market is they don’t understand that there’s multiple ways and options at every senior is different and every family is different and all of those factors come into play. That’s exactly right. I have two families that I’m working with, the seniors directly. The daughters contacted me. My MOM’s very alert oriented, doing her own thing. Her Mommy’s kind of failing her. She lives in Port Townsend. She needs to see the water gasking. What what can I do? I just don’t even know there’s something out there like that. And the daughter, I was telling her just stories and she’s like, oh my gosh, I’m having my mom call you. Great and I love now I’m in dialog with her mom. You know, and we’re talking about options, have a married couple that you know within North Seattle. They’ve been in the same house for sixty five years. They have, I think, five children. They’re all out there within because mom and dad are really independent, but they’re not safe. I’ve been working with that family the SANUARY. They’ll working with us, but and that’s okay. It’s a process. Yes, it is a process. That’s totally okay. They hope. There’s a partnership that gets developed, there’s there’s trust that gets developed. This is not something to take lightly and just now throw a dart at the DART boards and say, okay, I’ve looked at three months, I’m going to pick one of them and call it good. No, this is about your parents in month situations their later next chapter of life. Let’s make it good. Yes, and I and you know, next chapter of life, like we said, can take on many forms and I want to talk a little bit in our final segment of all the people that are here for our families and for us in these times of transition, that take care of our loved ones, and certainly, daphne, you have connection to all of them. So, in the meantime, before we sign off to our next segment, how do we reach you? The best way? Eight hundred and fifty five, seven hundred, thirty four, one thousand fifteen hundred. That’s our direct line at eight hundred and fifty five, seven three four one thousand fifteen hundred, and you can also get to us at Pinnacle Senior Placementscom. Again, that’s Pinnacle Senior Placementscom on the Internet. There we go, and Daphne will be right back right up to this. The preceding podcast was provided by pinnacles senior placements LLC and answers for elders radio. To contact pinnacles senior placements, go to Pinnacle Senior Placementscom
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