Families are seeing new developments with senior loved ones in senior care after having been apart from them. Faith Marshall of Awakenings Hypnosis & Coaching provides advice for how to reconnect with senior loved ones after the isolation brought about by the pandemic and addresses the fear: Will Mom remember me when I visit her?
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The following answers for elders podcast features author, innovator Alzheimer’s and Dementia Family Coach Faith Marshall. So you’re obviously running into families. I know we’ve been. I’ve been talking to so many people right now that have, you know, had long absences from their loved ones and maybe they do have to menor whatever. It’s like. You know, there’s obviously times where now families are starting to see new things or new developments with their loved ones, especially because they’ve been a party. Are Some of kind of the things that you’re finding. Everyone is just like all of us. We have dealt with this last year differently. Your situation has been different. You may have been home, you may have been able to work, you may have had to work ver, true, and your loved one is either with you in home, at your home or their home, or they’re in a facility that you haven’t been able to visit them. So it’s it’s hard. There’s so much unknown. We’re excited about getting out, we’re excited about connecting with people, but I always had that fear is mom going to remember me? And I can just imagine that same fear that people are feeling now, even though you’ve been facetiming or telephoning or even standing outside of the window at their their facility, where they’ve been cared for and very safe and secure, but you don’t know how they’re going to react to you when you when you see them physically. Sure, and I would just want to run in and give mom a big hug, drew, but and that would be my plan a but my plan be should be to kind of get a feel for how she’s going to respond to seeing me, if there’s going to be fair in her eyes or it’s it’s just baby step journey on that that reacquaintance. Exactly. Yeah, you know, it’s what you’re saying. Is is like, you know, you meet people where they are and I think a lot of times, whether mom or dad have been at home or if they’ve been in a community, you know their experience make may very well likely is different than yours. Yes, through this last year a lot of them haven’t left their homes and other than, you know, for a rare situation, to get a vaccine or something like that in a year. Yeah, and I know from me and I’ve talked about this another segments. You know just since I’ve been the clear and fully vaccinated. Now I’ve been able to go into the grocery store for the first time in like a year. You know, before I had my groceries, you know, delivered to me or I go pick them up from the parking lot, you know, one of those situations. And so even walking in the grocery store, it’s like there’s this overwhelming bit of of, you know, stimulus that you’re not used to, and I can only imagine with a senior that has to mention or Alzheimer’s, how would that affect them in that way? It’s really a mystery because it depends on what stage they’re at and whether they’ve they’ve energetically picked up on all of this fear that you know, is having to be stay in their room, they can’t go in the cafeteria, they can’t socialize with the others in the in the nursing home. So I think all of us are kind of stepping through a sense of fear that has been programmed in us and and having that not knowing whether this is safe. Huh. So that’s why I say that you kind of have to meet them where they are, like you said, and and get a gage for where they’re at. Some of us, when you get into a family situation, it’s like it all comes back to us and we start to, you know, take our masks off with the family and feel comfortable again. But you don’t know how they’re going to react, because we’ve all been programmed for safety and whether they’re retaining that or not is a little bit of a mystery. So it’s just baby steps really. Absolutely. Now, obviously, for for you know, hypnosis, when you use the term hypnosis, there’s a lot of ways in which were subconscious we already being hypnotized as human beings, conrects. So yes, what you’re basically doing is reformatting the pattern within the brain. Is that kind of how I’m yes, yeah, yeah, so a lot of things, if a senior has been pooped up or there’s a lot of innate years, it’s like bringing back things from the past, especially with the dementia. That’s can be very helpful. Yeah, yeah, I love to use music as a grounding. It’s like the brain has a memory of music that has nothing to do with dementia or where you’re at. A song can bring them back and bring them joy and that’s a just a wonderful, beautiful way to remember the remember the Fun Times right and bring that up for them well, and I I certainly am am excited to explore this topic with you for this hour as we’re as we’re come conversing here. And in the meantime, faith, I know for you what you know. I tell us a little bit, just we have about one minute. Tell us a little bit about awakenings, hypnosis and coaches and coaching. And how do we reach you? My my website is awakenings, hypnosis and COACHINGCOM and there’s a way on there just to schedule a call with me. That’s a complimentary call, or even to attend one of my first week of the month group calls that are free, where you can meet others and learn about hypnosis and coaching and how it might help your family. Well, that would be great and certainly faith for everyone that was is with us. It’s like you know, I know that the word hypnosis can be scary, but I will tell you that there’s a lot of positive things about what it can do for you and they they’re all kinds of breakthroughs that are happening every day and certainly I’m open to learning more in this hour, and so faith is going to be with us so again. How do we reach you? Awakenings, hypnosis and coachingcom or. My author’s website is faith marshallcom perfect in faith. Will be right back everyone, right after this. We would like to thank you for joining us in this podcast. Faith is here to support you and your family on this journey. She will help you to come together in harmony, creating the best team and advocating for your loved one’s care. So call faith at eight fifty five, three hundred and sixty three, two four eight four to receive a two hundred dollar gift card just by mentioning that you’ve heard these podcasts again. That number is eight h fifty five, three hundred and sixty three, two four eight four. And guess what that’s spells faith. Eighth and fifty five three Faidh
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Founder and CEO of Answers for Elders, Inc., Suzanne Newman proclaims often, “Caring for my mom was the hardest thing I ever have done, but it was also my greatest privilege.” Following a career of over 25 years in sales, media, and marketing management, Suzanne Newman found herself on a 6-year journey caring for her mother. Her trials and tribulations as a family caregiver inspired an impassioned life mission outside of the corporate world to revolutionize the journey that so many other American families also find themselves on. In 2009, she became the founder and CEO of Answers for Elders, Inc., subsequently hosting hundreds of radio segments and podcasts, as well as authoring her first book. Suzanne and Answers for Elders, Inc. have spent 14 years, and counting, committed to helping families and seniors along their caregiving journeys by providing education, resources, and support. Each week on the Answers for Elders podcast, Suzanne is joined by vetted professional experts in over 65 categories including Health & Wellness, Life Changes, Living Options, Money, Law, and more. Suzanne lives in Edmonds, Washington with her husband, Keith, and their two doodle dogs, Whidbey and Skagit.