Shawn D’Amelio talks about CarePartners Living partnerships such as With A Little Help. It’s helpful to have a partner during the transition from in-home care to a community, after living in their home for 50 years. It takes time to process that, but typically it becomes a crisis. There’s confusion between home health and home care. Home health is occupational and physical therapy, visiting nurse covered by Medicare. Home care includes meal care, transportation, help with dressing.
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The following podcast is provided by care partners living and answers for elders radio, and welcome everyone to answers for elders radio. And I am here with Sean de Emilio, believe it or not, on behalf of care partners. But Sean, you are a power partner with care partners with a little help, and I am excited to have you on board because we love to talk about Care Partners Partnerships, and you guys are certainly a wonderful strategic partners then. So welcome, welcome to thank you. Thank you so much for having us. You know, I’m so glad to have you on because you know, we love working with care partners and I know that they are such an amazing company and having communities all over at that are affordable and retirement living. But obviously, no matter what kind of transition, you guys are working with seniors, you know, in their homes, with a little help. You’re a home care agency, non medical, and so obviously, you know, making a transition from all of a sudden it’s time to really morm or dad need a little bit more supervision or assistance than what they can do at home because obviously there’s that. There’s that critical point, I guess, when families need to make that decision. Right. What do you look for when that happens? Sean, you know, I think that when somebody starting to transition and if we can be of help to help them transition into a community like Kelly’s care partners, and I’d say I am. I say I think that’s a really good thing and a really good time to have somebody supporting them so that they feel like they have a partner in the transition. So it can be a very lonely time going into a new building, right. So if you have somebody there that’s helping you transition in, somebody takes you down to the dining room and has lunch with you, and somebody that is going on and outing with you or starting to reduce you to the community activities, that’s a good time to have a caregiver with you right. Right. And and when somebody starting to figure out where they going to take they’ve just lived in their home for the last fifty years and now they have to figure out what am I going to take with me? And it’s nice to go at a pace. It’s not like hey, we’re throwing everything in a box and it’s all going to goodwill and and they like to have time to process. It takes well time, it does process and sadly the typical thing that happens with families is a crisis and because families don’t plan, and I wish if there was one thing that people that are listeners to this show would get in their heads is that, you know, do things in advance, take take the time before it gets to a point, because it’s so much harder on a senior if, you know, they break a hip and they can’t go home right, you know, or they, you know, have a heart attack and they need more, you know, medical assisted living type situations, and you know that typical thing. oftentimes what will happen, I know, is that seniors will be in a situation where they might have been in a stint of Rehab and then, instead of them being discharged to go home, they discharge them to, let’s say, an assist a living situation. Right, you guys can help them in certain cases. Obviously, go home temporarily with your services. Is that correct? So, and with and with home health, obviously, but it’s not necessarily a long term solution in many cases. Right. For some people it’s not, but oftentimes it is if they go home with home health right, and there’s a little bit of a confusion. So I’d like to just talk about yeah, please. There’s a little confusion between home health and home care. So often people are getting discharged and they think they’re going home with home health, which is occupational therapy and physical therapy and speech therapy, a social worker, possibly a visiting nurse. But that’s about thirteen visits and that is all covered by Medicare and that’s a great, great support for family ways and for people going home. However, it’s not home care. And what the difference is? A home care can come in and they can spend time with you. Meal preparation, Lighthouse keeping, base right dressing, transportation to outings, doc transportation to doctors appointment. So there’s a whole different thing that home care does. I love it when when we compare with home health and come in at the same time as home wealth, because then we’re side by side with the occupantsolutely working with somebody to be healthier and understanding what their goals are before they’re out of the picture. Right. And you know, the great thing about that is obviously is it. You guys are kind of the glue between the whole process. It’s like, when I think about like a home care agency that is really a legitimate agency like you guys are. You guys are there for the betterment of the senior, no matter what, whether you’re in the picture or not. But the thing, one thing that I think you guys can really do is you get to know that senior. You know, you get to know their their likes, their dislikes, their values, what’s most important to them and also, you know, I think the you get in touch with like the family dynamics. I know there’s probably a lot of things that go on outside of a situation in that you know, the average person or the average you know, maybe assisted living community that they may be eventually moving into, is not going to be aware of but you guys will have the ability to make that bridge easier. Right. Would you share a little bit about, you know, what it’s some of the things that families that deal with some in all process? I think you’re right. There are always a lot of family dynamics and what’s always interesting to us is somebody will calls in to come and provide care and there’s a big gap between what the center daughter might think they’d like to have happened and when the client might like to happen and what care they think they need and what care actually takes place once we’re in there. Very true. So you see a lot of different things that you nobody may have even been aware of, because our seniors are proud and they are dependent and then it don’t general their children and they don’t tell the children really what’s going on. Right. So we are talking again to Sean Demilio and Sean is with with a little help, and you guys are a home care agency that services what area? Sean? We’re locally owned home care company from Haud to say, and we service all of King South, Nahomas and North Pierce County. Yeah, and that’s wonderful and obviously you know I love having you on and you guys are amazing partners with care partners living, who is our primary sponsor today at and the program so tell me a little bit about how you guys work with care partners. So care partners. We were a big fan of care partners and one of the reasons were big fan of care partners is that they have the biggest floating medicaid bed license in the state of Washington. And for those of you who don’t know what that means, it’s basically that if somebody says that they will do a spend down for you and they’re going to take two or three years of private pay money for you to live in their building and at the end of that, at the end of that money, they you can roll on to Medicaid and be in a medicaid bed. If they only have ten beds, they get kicked out. They can get kicked out because they can say, I’m sorry, we don’t have a bed for you. However, care partners can float their medicaid bed license up and allow somebody to stay there for the rest of their lives and they value that and their mission is to accommodate those those their word, HMM, to do what they say. They abously. We’re going to do absolutely and that’s we value. A partner that values well and really to have I know when I was taking care of my mom, Sean, I had to move for four times. It broke my heart. Yeah, because I didn’t know what I didn’t know. That’s then I moved her into an independent living community when she really should have been in an assistant living but they didn’t have any assist to living beds open and it was in my hometown and small town, and so I figured, well, this would be fine. Well, it wasn’t fine, right, right. So she needed help and they didn’t provide it. Well, then she broke her pelvis, she had to go to Rehab and they really stirr into assisted living. Well, then I moved her down here. So that’s one big move. So I didn’t know the right questions to ask, right, because I was just an innocent daughter that didn’t was trying to do right by my mom to, quote unquote, save her money, but at the same time I wanted her to have a good quality of life, and so we moved her into a one bedroom apartment until she ran out of money and then she had to move into a studio and then we to go on to Medicaid, which they did take her. But then what I learned is that when she then had about in the hospital and she was off premise in the hospital for two weeks, Medicaid kicked her out of her house, we or our home. They wouldn’t continue paying which so then my mom had to move into skilled nursing with because that’s the only place at the time that would take her. And so it breaks my heart to think of all the changes that she had to go through when it was already hard enough. And I think it’s morally wrong that you know just because she was in the hospital, that she lost her home. There there is a big part of me that is so angry at that still to this day. You know, ten years later, there’s some you know that that happens to our seniors and this is a kind of thing. I think that that care partners, had I known better at the time. You know, affiliating her with a company like care partners would have been so much better right her and easier. And it’s it’s easy to with hindsight right, because we don’t know what we don’t don’t know, and I always do try to say, and I learned this lesson a little bit the hard way, because I cared for somebody who lived in her home and we were getting to end of her funds and we are trying to decide what to do, and I had a guardian say to me, because I said, well, what if we what if we at least moved her with all the care. Instead of moving her to an adult family home, we moved her to an apartment until she had no more money to do that and then moved her and she said, you know, how many times do we want to move her? It’s it’s it mattered, it’s traumatic. It’s hard to do that. So what can we do to prevent that? And it’s not only the surroundings, but it’s the care providers like that, care people that would come in to take care of her and do the most private things with her, like help her go to the bathroom and help her shower and all those things. To have that disrupted and have to deal with a new person every time is just overwhelming and I really looking at the continuum of care that somebody can provide is really helpful as well. I think absolutely, absolutely. So first of all we want to do a shout out to care partners to say thank you for having you on the show. Thank Sean, and thank you also. I want to know just how do we reach you? Yes, you can reach as it with a little help. So it’s to zero six, three, five, two, seven, three nine nine. Huh. You can call our office a day time and more than likely Mary will take that call, Uh Huh, and help get US intake set up, and it’s absolutely we come out and do a nice visit and get to know somebody and decide where the right fit or if we’re not the right fit. We’re really great resource and we’re proud of that and that’s why we like to have partnerships like care partners, because if we’re not the right resource, we can refer you onto somebody like care absolutely absolutely well, Sewan, I’m still thrilled to have you on the show today and you know, I cannot strongly emphasize enough to go with an independent home care agency like with a little help when it’s time for your parent to get help. We always are an advocate for our independently owned agency. So thanks again. Thank you so much. Thanks again for having us. The preceding podcast was provided by care partners living and answers for elders radio to contact care partners living codd care partners livingcom
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