10 Things You Need to Know about Dementia

“You ask, can someone with dementia sin? Of course, they can! In the early stages of dementia, people are still cognizant of their actions and responsible for what they do. They are able to repent, confess, and ask for forgiveness. However, I believe that there comes a time in the latter stages when they have little concept of where they are and what they are doing. Suppose that one in the last stages of dementia picks up a knife in anger and stabs someone—and within minutes the act is entirely forgotten. Their behavior is certainly sinful. However, it is not possible for that demented one to deal appropriately with the consequences—including confession and repentance in order to receive forgiveness.

In this case, I can’t imagine that God would hold this sin against the demented one. God’s grace, mercy, and forgiveness will surely be forthcoming. Now, let’s be clear that no one goes to Heaven based on whether or not they have unforgiven sin when they die. When we received Christ all of our sins were forever forgiven. Nothing we can do in the future can take away salvation—whether we lose our minds or not (Read Romans 8:28-39). Those in the final stages can certainly commit sinful acts. But, it matters little whether or not they ask for forgiveness. According to the Bible, the blood Jesus shed on the cross covers all of our sin.” -Dr. Roger Barrier

Here are 10 things you should know about dementia from Dr. John Dunlop:

1. Dementia is already a common tragedy and will become more common.

Every time Jan came to my office she would smile and tell me “Old age is not for cowards.” She would always laugh, proud of her originality but oblivious to the fact that in her dementia she had told me the same many times.

Indeed, dementia is one of the greatest challenges of aging. And as life expectancy increases, dementia will be all the more common. It is estimated that over one-third of today’s seniors will die with some degree of dementia.

2. Dementia has many causes other than Alzheimer’s.

Alzheimer’s disease causes roughly 70% of dementia, but many other diseases lead to it as well, such as multiple strokes and Parkinson’s. There is no stereotypic case and each person with dementia must be approached differently.

3. Dementia slowly progresses.

Most types of dementia slowly get worse. The average life expectancy after diagnosis is seven years, but it may be as long as twenty.

4. Dementia has some purpose in God’s sovereign plan.

Dementia is one of the tragedies of life that forces us to cry out to God. But even in our desperation we can recognize God has purpose in it. “I cry out to God Most High, to God who fulfills his purpose for me” (Ps. 57:2). God does not make mistakes. His purpose may be in the life of the victim, the caregivers, society as a whole, or all three. One of the challenges of dementia is to recognize those purposes and get in line with them.

5. All people with dementia are made in the image of God and deserve to be treated with dignity and respect.

Being made in the image of God is true of all human beings from the best to the worst of us. It is not dependent on functional abilities or IQ. Martin Luther King Jr. spoke rightly when he said “There are no gradations in the image of God.” The image of God imparts a dignity to all people and demands our respect.

6. There is no good medical treatment for dementia.

One of the best ways to improve the quality of life of those with dementia is to respect their God-given dignity.

7. A good way to show respect for the dignity of those with dementia is to understand how they see the world and see things as they see them.

When my mother in her dementia thought I was my dad, my response was not to correct and belittle her but to say “I love you, Lois.” I spoke the truth and she was affirmed. We must also show respect by providing for their physical, emotional, social and spiritual needs even though it may be difficult to understand what they are.

8. In many cases giving care to those with dementia is harder than experiencing dementia itself.

The early stages of dementia can be very frustrating for a patient increasingly conscious of their cognitive decline. As the disease progresses many are quite content living in the present tense. They are not bothered by mistakes of the past and do not worry about the future.

I remember Helen, a dear saint who had spent her life serving the Lord in Africa. She had developed severe dementia and was living in a dementia care facility. I would frequently see her telling stories from her years on the mission field to an attentive group gathered round. As she got to the end of the story she would slap her thigh and everyone had a good laugh.

What did it matter that she told the same five stories over and over again? Everyone was having a grand time.

9. Dementia is a terminal disease and aggressive measures to prolong life are rarely appropriate or God-honoring.

In the advanced stages of dementia, when the patient is unable to eat, it is not appropriate to use feeding tubes or to attempt resuscitation in the event of cardiac arrest.

10. Dementia like all other diseases will be healed.

The hope of all Christians is to live eternally in the presence of God. Heaven will be a time to experience the glory of God in ways impossible while confined to our present bodies and brains. There will be no more dementia, and those afflicted by dementia will say with all other believers, “I shall know fully even as I have been fully known” (1 Cor. 13:12).

This article was originally published on Crosswalk.com – 10 Things You Need to Know about Dementia – Used with permission – This article was originally published on Crossway.org and is adapted from the book Finding Grace in the Face of Dementia by John Dunlop, MD. Used with permission.