Understanding Aging
Positively Getting Older
We hear much about the negatives of aging - the pull of gravity and wearing down of systems. What are the positives?
Sociologic ChangesWith age, sociologic changes occur between aging individuals and family and friends due to the loss of peers and contemporaries -- a spouse, siblings, other relatives, old friends and neighbors. This can lead to isolation unless a concerted effort is made to stay socially active. Getting out and being involved presents opportunities to meet new people. New friends may never replace the lost closeness shared with someone who knew you before your hair turned grey, or before your first child was born. But the support network that comes with sharing life with peers can counter loneliness and goes a long way toward dispelling feelings of isolation. The more people you interact with daily, the more chance there is to form new bonds. The more people there will be to bond, with in years to come.
Being involved and busy, focuses on the present and future. If we lose close contemporaries we have less opportunity to touch others. As babies thrive when cuddled and touched, so do adults. Opportunities to hug and be hugged diminish with losses. It's important to create new ones. A handshake, or pat on the back helps. Go out of your way to practice these, making it okay for others to touch you. Grandchildren can provide opportunities for physical closeness. If you don't see them often create opportunities through surrogate grandparenting. Retirement can be a beginning not and end.
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New Attitude on Successful Aging
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study used subjective reports by the participants, all of
whom lived independently, and the sample of individuals matched
the national averages of medical and mental health conditions.
Also, those who regularly engaged in such activities as reading
and writing and community socializing gave themselves higher
scores than those who did not. And in contradiction to longtime
received wisdom, volunteer activities were not found to exert
the same influence on participants. Thus, those things leading
to successful aging are well within an individual's control.
The key is adopting personal coping mechanisms as difficulties
come along, and remaining as physically, socially, and mentally
active as possible in one's circumstances.
(Released at the American College of Neuropsychopharmacology's
(ACNP) Annual Meeting, the research was conducted at and funded
by the Sam and Rose Stein Institute for Research on Aging
at the University of California-San Diego (UCSD) School of
Medicine.) 806 |
Can seniors who are unfulfilled and dissatisfied find new and effective methods to achieve happiness? The answer is YES. For most people a conscious desire to change plus learning a few techniques is all it takes. Whether you wish to become more creative, more loving, develop new friendships, or find new and inspiring hobbies, such changes are within reach.
You must become a believer in the power of your mind to change negative attitudes to positive ones in all that you do. Now is a time to look at growing older as a blessing and not a handicap. Retirement is a truly unique period in our lives; not to avail yourself of ways to become more creative and happy is tantamount to giving away your greatest opportunity to achieve fulfillment and well-being.
You need to overcome any residual belief that your life is now impoverished. It isn't and won't be. You haven't lost your spirit or inner resources that have guided you during your life. You must not become a victim of conditions that are now mainly out of your control. You need to believe that you can and will rise above any difficulties through the power of your own thinking.
Learn to use mental imagery exercises to overcome negative mindsets or beliefs and convert them to positive mindsets. Similar techniques are used by artists, actors, athletes, writers, teachers, sales people and others. By believing in the exercises and in your own power you can change your mind and behavior. It is not difficult to achieve.
The following is an example of a mental imagery exercise:
Sit in a comfortable chair. Close your eyes. Take several deep breaths and feel your body relax. Now breathe normally. Visualize your entire body relaxing. Feel the tension draining from your mind, as well as your body. Focus on any negative beliefs that you feel are making you uncomfortable, less efficient, negative or disturbed. Whatever your beliefs are, such as boredom, laziness, or procrastination, see yourself as bored or lazy or unable to do anything. Exaggerate how you look and feel. In an instance quickly change your feelings and appearance and see yourself as very positive, upbeat and the opposite of your negative self. You have completely changed into a positive person. Some people see themselves as leaping into the air or even flying. Now, convincingly, repeat, "I will never feel bored or lazy again. I feel wonderful and ready to find my place in the world."
Imagery is a powerful mental tool. If the idea appeals to you then you need to practice every day. The entire exercise takes about ten to twelve seconds and can be repeated several times at a sitting. I suggest you do it 5 to 20 times a day and continue it as part of your program to make your retirement fulfilling and satisfying.
By realizing that you have the power within you to change, you will already have started on a new path. You will be surprised at what you can accomplish and the gratification you will achieve.
Marvin H. Berenson, M.D,. Clinical Professor Emeritus of Psychiatry at the USC Keck School of Medicine. For more about Dr. Berenson visit: http://www.drmarvinberenson.com
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Loving Life in Retirement
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Dr. Berenson's book, "Loving Life in Retirement", offers further information about mental imagery, changing mindsets and overcoming obstacles in retirement. |
For you females, the Red Hat Society offers
an excellent venue to stay socially active. This society has evolved
into the largest women's movement worldwide changing the perception
of aging women. This organization uses the iconic Red Hat to have
fun and bond as sisters as they travel through life together.
Red Hatters are focused on women over 50. This worldwide sisterhood
has nearly 40,000 chapters across the US in all 50 states and in
more than 30 foreign countries. Each chapter averages about 20-25
members. Their full regalia for outings include red hats and purple
clothing. Membership includes a diverse network of women including
working women and retirees, grandmothers, golfers, attorneys, teachers,
Olympians and entertainers.
Seniorresource.com provides a convenient adjunct to
its Senior Bazaar to buy Red Hat items for yourself our as a gift.
See Seniorresource.com Red Hat Items
For more information contact:
Red Hat Society "Hatquarters":
431 S. Acacia Ave., Fullerton, CA 92831
Phone: 714-738-0001 or 866-FUN-AT50 (toll-free)
Fax: 714-738-0005
Did you know that taking a class in just about any subject can improve your cognitive abilities, rejuvenate your memory, and have fun all at the same time? Recent scientific studies clearly show that senior citizens who stay mentally active enjoy all of these rewards. Get more information including links to low cost classes here.
Drunk driving is one of America's deadliest problems. In 2007, 41,059
people were killed in motor vehicle crashes. There were 12,998 people
who were killed in traffic crashes that involved at least one driver
or motorcycle rider with a blood alcohol concentration (BAC) of .08
or higher.
Too many people still fail to understand that alcohol and driving don't
mix. Impaired driving is no accident-nor is it a victimless crime.
Officers will be out in full force during the Fourth of July holiday
period, cracking down on drunk drivers with an aggressive enforcement
blitz.
Much of the tragedy from drunk driving can be prevented with a few simple
precautions before going out to celebrate:
And remember, Friends Don't Let Friends Drive Drunk. If you know someone who is about to drive or ride while impaired, take their keys and help them make other arrangements to get to where they are going safely.
To learn how to provide grassroots support for impaired-driving law
enforcement crackdown efforts click here.
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